10 Ways to Love Yourself More

I haven’t done an article post in a while, so this is going to be a bit of a summary of some of the changes I’ve made in my life recently, or changes that I am actively working towards.

We can only find a full and happy life, when we take the first step of loving ourselves, unconditionally.   So this list is a bit of an oxymoron, because you’re kind of perfect just the way you are, right?   BUT, if you love yourself so much, that you want to do the best by you, these are 10 things you might want to consider doing.

  1. Look in the mirror and smile, daily.   Yes, this corny step, that seems oh so self righteous and cliche, really has an amazing impact on your self esteem, your self worth and, embodying that state of happiness.  We humans are SOOOO visual, we learn visually, we are stimulated visually, we take in knowledge and remember experiences visually.   If, on a daily basis, we see ourselves smiling and happy, shouldn’t that become part of who we just inherently are?   It might seem silly and fake at first, if you aren’t happy, but just go with it, and you’ll see that at one point you’ll just be laughing at your stupid self smiling in the mirror at 7 am, and you’ll start your day with laughter.   Silly?  Maybe.   But it’s absolutely a win.
  2. Listen to more music.   Now this is a tricky one….. you gotta tread carefully here because music has the power to either lift you higher then you could of imagined, or throw a ice cold stake through your heart.   Yes, it’s dramatic, but if you’re a human, you know what I mean here.   So find yourself an empowering playlist through Spotify and get your groove on, and show Stella how it’s done.
  3. Give life advice to yourself, as if you were talking to your best friend.  When we are dishing out “how to’s” to our friends, we basically think we are giving the best advice, because well, we aren’t attached to the situation in the same way, we are un biased, and we see the whole picture.   We need to do this for ourselves…. would you let your best friend be upset about waiting for “him to text back” or “thinking they will change eventually”?    Abso-fucking-lutely not.    You’d say, “Bitch get dressed, we’re going out to find you someone better” or we’d quote, Madea, quoting Maya Angelou, “if someone shows you who they are, believe them” with a dumb Tyler Perry tone.
  4. Delete Facebook off of your phone.  Seriously.   Right now.   Go, delete the app off of your phone.   “Don’t worry I’ll wait…”    For most of us, we are constantly attached to our phones, but this isn’t an article about that, what I intend by this, is that by removing FB from our phones, we check it less, we compare ourselves to others less, and we actually give ourselves, a substantial amount of time, back, that is dedicated to ourselves, to improve ourselves, to improve our lives, or hopefully, to bask in how amazing life is, as it is, right now.
  5. Get real Honest with yourself.   This one isn’t fun, or glamourous or anything like that, I could probably spin this into a positive, but the Chianti has me on a roll right now, and I’m not gonna slow down.   BUT, assess your life, and your habits, and your patterns.   Ask yourself questions.   Do I drink too much?  Do I make myself available for others more than I am available for myself?  Do I eat the right foods for my desires and needs?  Do I get enough exercise?  Do I blah, blah blah.    Give yourself an objective assessment and honestly read your results, without giving excuses.
  6. Take yourself out on a date.  If we wait for someone else to do something with, we might wait an entire lifetime.   Seriously, if you wanna go see that movie, that no one else wants to check out, just fucking go.   If you want to go to that new restaurant, go by yourself.  If you want to check out that concert, fucking go.   Some people may say that sounds lame, and so ‘un-cool’ but what’s really lame and ‘un-cool’ is letting life pass you by.   You can sit on your ass waiting for your crew, or that significant other…. as for me I’ll be back stage with the band.
  7. Perform a RAK, and don’t tell anyone else about it.   Do something nice for a complete stranger, something outstanding, and beneficial for another human being, and don’t ever speak of it to another person.   Doing this a) is good for that other person, b) is good karma, but don’t let that motivate you, and c) it is a secret you have with yourself, it is a relationship building exercise to get more intimate with yourself.  You will always have this as a path, to get back to yourself, and the conversation that only you can have with yourself.   
  8. Cut out the negative BS.   Now this is very general, but it has such power, that so few of us actually use.   You control your body, you control your life, you control where you go, who you’re with, what you do.  If someone (friends, family, significant others) or something (ideas, jobs, social standards, beauty standards, body standards) in your life is causing you pain, or is detrimental to you and your growth and loving yourself then you need to get rid of it.   PRO TIP: this shit is hard.   Good luck, but when you take control back over your life, you really dictate what you allow and what you don’t and you get to chose only the best for yourself.
  9. Ask for help.  This is a hard one for all us prideful people, me, being raised Irish Catholic on one side of the family and Italian on the other side, and then a mix of some other stuff, I absolulty inherited the pride gene, and let me tell you.   It leaves you at the bottom of the barrel.   Seek help and advice.   Pick up  a book, read an article like this, or ask your friends for their advice.   When you do that, it just opens a door to a path of self discovery and self exploration.
  10. Wear sexy underwear.   Not only do you feel amazing when your undergarments are on fleek, but you are saying you are ready for anything.    You are stating that no matter what happens, you are ready to go with the flow.  So, be it an interview at the top company in your industry, or a date at the local bar, or going to the gym, or heading to bed, make sure you are in your best, and ready for anything.   

Canon is awesome….

So in my last post, I mentioned Canon, the camera company and how I would love to be sponsored by them, to basically travel the world and take amazing shots of all the amazing and beautiful things that I come across. Well…. they haven’t sponsored me just yet, but they have asked to use two of my photographs for their blog, and to me that is fucking cool as shit!  These are the two photographs:



This one is from a hike I went on in the Hudson Valley, NY.   It was the Mainus Gorge hike, it was a 4-5 mile hike.


This was from Sleepy Hollow, NY.  My friends and I went to the site where Washington Irving was buried, and where the ‘Headless Horseman’ story takes place.

So it’s not the hugest accomplishment, but still I love it, and I am going to let it empower me to do more photography and follow this passion of mine some more.

It’s amazing, really, I love that someone else seems to appreciate the work I do, especially from an artistic point of view.

And I love that, you, whoever you are, are reading this and taking the time to see some of my art.

Thank you.



So the super moon / blood moon was the other day, and seeing as how this event wouldn’t happen again for the next 33 years, I figured I’d try to get some shots of this cool celestial event.

Photography is something I’ve always done, I lose track of time, and just get in the zone so much, that 4 hours had gone by and I didn’t even notice.   I sent some of these shots to Canon, and they messaged be back, with some really awesome feedback and possibly a hopeful future of sharing some of my work.

That is a dream of mine, I’d love to get sponsored by Canon, and be able to do photography full time, while documenting my journey on bringing my organization, Connect Collect Create, an organization/network for the conscious community, to life.  So hey, Canon, lets talk about this.  😉

So I hope you enjoy these photos, and Prints are available for purchase, just get in touch with me and we can figure something out.

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(All photos taken with a Canon 70D, in conjunction with a viewfinder telescope)

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Acorns? Oaks? Be the tree? Woodstock? Hippie level – 100%

So over my vacation I went to a yoga festival, which was pretty awesome.  It was at Bethel Woods, where the Woodstock Festival was held back in the 60’s.  The grounds are beautiful and I’m kind of shocked that I’ve never visited it before, seeing as how my family’s summer house is literally 10 minutes away.

Lets first cut to a few days ago, picture it: sicily 1920…. wait, I mean Mahopac 2015, needle stuck in my arm, leaving me with a dead arm for the next 2 days with a doctor saying “So l don’t see it, I don’t know what we are going to do, but I really think you need to get a tetanus shot.”

To which I replied “I get what you’re saying, but I’m more of a naturalist, and I don’t think I really want all those chemicals pumping through my body.”   As she stared at me, blank faced and probably thinking that if she has to fight with another anti vaxxer she is going to throw up, I felt like maybe I should just give in.

She smiled and very politely said, “You could die, and this is what you get for walking around Woodstock barefoot.”59213967

(Just got a piece of glass stuck in my foot that I couldn’t get out)

So lets get back to this festival and trees and being a hippie.   One evening I had to ride out into town to pick up something from the store, and was listening to a local radio station when the radio host announced that they were giving away tickets to this Live Well, Be Well, Yoga festival at Bethel Woods.  For some reason I decided to try and call them, which is unusual because, well I’m not 16 anymore and who calls radio stations anymore to win stuff?  But I went to call them anyway, but missed the 800 number to call, but still felt that I needed to call the station, so I stopped the car on the side of the road and googled the number.   What was I doing!?  Well long story short I got the number and called the radio station and won the tickets.

So that was going to be my Saturday, my last day of vacation.   And somehow it seemed fitting, it was the closure of my vacation, and closure to a year, seeing as how around that time, last year I was at another yoga festival called EvolveFest, and boy has shit been crazy over this past year.

So overall I was pumped to go check this thing out.   I only took a few photos of it because I was trying to participate as much as I could, and I was networking for my organization, Connect Collect Create.

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While I was at this festival I participated in a sound healing workshop, where basically there were a bunch of us siting in this grand room at the museum and people played crystal sining bowls, and other played with other instruments, while some of us sang and chanted OM, and all that jazz.

What was really interesting about this though was that as I sat there meditating I got this odd vision of a “tree running through itself”    Like kinda like the energy of the tree was flowing through it in this crazy awesome way, and I thought to myself, how in the hell would I ever describe this to someone, it was so odd.   I wasn’t sure how to even explain it, well, at the end of the workshop the lady who was running it, thanked everyone and then randomly said to everyone “they are saying, be the tree. Just be the tree.”   I think she was a medium and was relaying some message, what was weirder about the whole situation was that while everyone was leaving I went up to an old friend who I met in Newburg, NY, to say hello and the facilitator lady came up to me and was like “You have such a huge presence and energy, and I felt you come in like this beam of energy and I think the tree remark was for you.”

I told her about my meditation and it was an amazing connection between us, she is such a beautiful soul.   But I still don’t know what the hell this means!

What’s more kismet is that a few days before this festival I was doing a meditation on the dock at the lake, which is under an oak tree and I was focusing a lot on my heart chakra and just getting deep into the whole vibe.  I was focusing on sending out love and good vibes and all that ish, and as I was focusing on my heart chakra, an acorn fell out of the tree and hit me right in the chest at the heart chakra.

Oh wow, an acorn fell out of a tree, that you were sitting under….. *eye roll*   

Trust me, I feels you homez.   It was just crazy how this all kinda happened.

Who knows, I had just finished reading The Alchemist the day before so maybe I was already in that mind space.

But funnily enough, I have some serious connotations with acorns and stuff like that, and as I said maybe this was a closure to a years worth of shit.   Or maybe it was a sign of things to come, or maybe it was just a fucking acorn.   Either way, I’m just happy af.

peace and love peeps.

If I call it a self portrait instead of a selfie, does that make it more acceptable?


A shot I took in Peekskill, NY.   9/20/15









On the streets of Beacon , NY




Dj, my aunts horse.   Such a PITA, and almost killed me as a child.









I thought this shot was so cool.   It’s like the clouds are a reflection of the trees.  Like how you would see the reflection of the trees in the water.  Are we a reflection of nature?



I guess its nice to have a professional chef visit you.  🙂   love this guy


I love this shot so much.  I love the muted and neutral colors, yet there is so much life, even in an up rooted tree.








Yes, that many stars.









One of my favorite long expo shots.





The name Tonkawa is derived from the Waco tribal word, Tonkaweya, meaning “they all stay together.”




I have a super cool abstract painting that I did, with this as inspiration.  This is the view when laying in the hammock.   Be the tree? Supportive and forgiving?  IDFK.




Yes a legit barn, that keeps horses and hay, and stuff like that.  Something I’m used to, but a lot of my friends from the city would see this and be like wtf…


The energizer dog…. she seriously has no chill.


This is a cool shot of DJ.   This is called Cribbing, something that he has always done.



Um… the front yard. 🙂


Such a cool story behind that dream catcher, I traded some of my art at Evolvefest, last year, and the guy gave me this.  He was like “I’m going to use your piece as the center piece of a mirror exhibit I have in upstate New York.”   I asked where it was, and he said, Monticello.   Thats’ where I am.   It’s home.   funny how things work out.



If I call it a self portrait instead of a selfie, does that make it acceptable?

That moment when you realize how beautiful life is.




Now this was SICK!   A storm was rolling in, and as the clouds came around, half the lake was bright and filled with light, and the other half was covered in shadow.  It was so cool to see.





Maybe this is why I saw the tree “running through itself” (see post on 9/22)



A natural spring, one of many over here.  Poland Spring ain’t got shit on this.




Like are you serious???  I took this picture?  Gag on it…




My buddy came to visit me, and I told him how proud I was that he hadn’t tipped over in the kayak, and it was his first time.  Well as soon as I said that, over he went.












So this is a beaver dam.  When my grandmother was a very young, like 5 or 6 she and her twin brother swam into one of these, and she said it smelt God awful.  I’ll take her word on it.









Water lilies are just beautiful.




God I missed Kayaking so much!  I’m not used to these shorter kayaks but still had a blast.  Also I apparently have a serious case of RBF, Resting Bitch Face.  I need to smile more.

The Labor of Love…. Labor Day Insights

So over Labor Day weekend I went to my family’s summer house in up state New York.   This place is heaven to me, it is exactly what I love about the world and what I think paradise is.   It’s the most beautiful place I have been to so far in my life.   I wanted to share some photos I got while I was there, and toss in some insights that I realized while I was there.   IMG_8550





Some photography geeking out here:

I really love how these two photos of the same scene offer such different feelings.   For me there first one is kind of just looking into what my paradise is, and the other is much more inviting, and it really brings you into this place.   It makes you feel welcomed into this space and the feeling of love and peace that is in the atmosphere constantly.



From ‘couch potato’ to total Veg.

So I feel like I was the KING of ideas, but had no real follow through.  I had ideas to go and change the world, and to go and change my life, and to do all these amazing things.

You know what?  I am still right where I was 10 years ago.   That is some scary shit.

I’m 26 right now, I’ve gone out and done my thing, explored and what not, but now that I’m back ‘home’ thinking it’s time to settle down but I can’t help but feel that home isn’t here.  Home is more of a feeling when we are so full of love and joy, that the outside world, read: your house, your city, your clothes, your job etc., don’t really matter.

So in this realization I have come the conclusion that the ideas that I had to go out and change the world and to do all these amazing things, well, they have to start with me.   So my focus right now is living such a beautiful life, for myself, from within, that the outer world will have no choice but to reflect those ideas that I had all those years ago.

So I have made some changes recently, that were once ideas, but are now coming to fruition.   I’ve become a vegetarian, but not the scary kind;


I have started to lift off my organization called Connect Collect Create  and I’ve started to make decisions and choices based solely on my input and the way I feel about things, and ignoring societal and familial pressures.

So basically this blog is gonna be about a few things:

  • Starting a new organization
  • My personal Journey through many lenses (spiritual, artistic, human, blah blah blah)
  • Conscious living
  • My Photography  (Support Local Artists!!)

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  • And just some awesome ish….. Hopefully with plenty of videos.

So stick with me here for a bit, and just vibe out with me, homie.

Peace and Love.

Under Deconstruction

So this site is under construction, while I am under deconstruction.  This is my breakdown.  This is my empowerment.  11535879_10101653013389874_6520954952807781891_n

This is a journey and intentional life change that has been but a thought for years, and now it’s finally coming to manifestation.

Please be patient as I get all this shit together.   🙂

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